Being successful is more than just a plateau that you reach one day—it’s a lifestyle that you must maintain because the second you aren’t successful, you become unsuccessful. And while that might seem like a lot of pressure, you should look at it another way—being successful is motivation enough to stay successful and live the lifestyle you deserve.
Unless for some reason you feel like you don’t deserve that lifestyle—that it’s meant to be lived by someone else? Unfortunately, that’s the mindset you are taking if you don’t actively strive to be successful, that you don’t deserve to have that lifestyle. And to that end, you might as well surround yourself with other people who don’t actively strive to be successful—in other words, losers.
Living a Successful Lifestyle
But if you do want to be successful and you do want to have that lifestyle, then you need to not surround yourself with losers. You have to surround yourself with like-minded people because as the saying goes, “If you want to know who you are, look at the three people closest to you.” If you surround yourself with losers, you will be a loser. If you surround yourself with successful people, you will be successful.
And while that might seem over-simple, it certainly isn’t. Let’s look at an example. Let’s say that it’s Friday night and you’re hanging out with your friend Frank. Frank doesn’t have a job, has no money in his pocket and his clothes have seen better days. He asks you what you want to do and you suggest going to a club to talk with some people. You now have three scenarios:
- You have to pay for Frank meaning you’re spending double the money just for you to have a good time while Frank is spending nothing to have the same time as you
- You decide to sit around and do nothing since Frank doesn’t have the money
- You leave Frank and go to the club by yourself and meet people
In situation one, you’re not ever going to be successful spending all of your money on other people who aren’t doing anything for themselves. That’s just you enabling losers while keeping yourself firmly bogged down in their loser ranks. In the second situation, you’re just sitting around going nowhere—hardly the lifestyle of a successful person. You’re letting your loser friend Frank hold you back.
Leaving Your Loser Friends Behind to be Successful
But in the third situation, you break free of the loser and go out and create a lifestyle for yourself. Maybe you meet the person of your dreams at the club. Maybe you meet someone who can help you with your career. Maybe you meet some successful people and start hanging around them—the point is, you are creating opportunity for yourself by leaving your loser friend behind and getting out there to see what happens.
And that’s unfortunately what successful people have to do in their life if they want to reach a successful lifestyle—they have to cut ties with the people that are holding them down and keeping them in “loserville.” Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to stop saying hi to them on the street or keeping them as friends on Facebook, but it does mean that you should stop actively hanging around with them and start actively bettering yourself.
Won’t you Get Lonely?
Of course, if you leave your friends behind, won’t you get lonely? Not at all. The thing about friends is that you make them in the circles that you run in. If you are not going anywhere in life, you tend to be around other people that aren’t going anywhere—losers. If you are going somewhere in life, other people who are going somewhere in life will want to be around you—new friends. Successful friends who live a better lifestyle because they cut their loser friends out and left them behind.
And while this might sound harsh, just think about some of the successful people out there in the world and how much they hang around with losers. Do you see the president of the United States inviting lazy, shiftless people to the White House? Do supermodels randomly take McDonald’s fry cooks onto their yachts? The truth is out there and when you’re ready to embrace it, you’ll be on your way to a successful lifestyle, just by leaving your loser friends behind.
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