While self-doubt can deal a crushing blow to your motivation and success, turning it around on itself and crushing your self-doubt isn’t just empowering, it’s not as hard as you might think. Self-doubt does more to cripple our success than just about anything in the world. That’s because we are often our own harshest critics, driving misguided and irrational concepts about our performance, our abilities and how others perceive us. All of this leads to a down-trodden motivation which is extremely detrimental to your success.
What Can You Do to Get Rid of Self-Doubt?
But why even let that happen? While you don’t have control over the world, the one thing you do have control over is yourself. When you allow self-doubt to creep in and take over your motivation and success, you are effectively self-sabotaging and throwing in the towel on life. Don’t be your own worst enemy, there are enough enemies out there already! Here’s what you need to do to crush that self-doubt down into a little ball of nothing and toss it out the window for good!
- You Are You, Not Anyone Else. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is comparing your own success to the success of others. This leads directly to crippling self-doubt and a lack of motivation. You cannot change where you started out. Some people had better breaks than you, some were worse off. Get over it because you cannot control that. The only thing that you can do is strive to be the best you can be. Your success can only be graded by where you are now to where you push yourself to in the future. Successful people are not comparing themselves to you or anyone else—they are simply out there focusing on making their life the best it can be, and that’s why it is. Yours can be too—focus on your own success.
- Your Opinion Matters, Not Theirs. In that same vein, it’s crucial that you don’t pay attention to how others are thinking of you. Sure, you should care that your boss thinks you’re a hard worker and on time, but never be afraid of someone criticizing you. This will lead you to shelter up and not take risks. When you don’t take risks, you don’t move forward—you stay in your stagnant comfort zone and wallow in self-doubt. The first people to throw criticism your way are the people who are afraid themselves. They want you to stay down in the muck with them, afraid of their own success. You can fail 99% of the time and only succeed that 1% because that’s all it takes to be successful in life—that one time.
- Don’t Be Afraid to Pivot as You Move. Self-doubt has a way of keeping us in the planning stages for too long. We get so caught up with making everything perfect, that we wind up never moving our feet or worse—letting opportunity pass us right by. Create a few simple options and then go with the best one. Don’t be afraid to change your game plan as you go—this is called pivoting on your feel. Life happens in real time and there’s no way you can plan for everything that is going to happen. Go with your best option (typically your gut feeling), create a clear course of action and then stay loose and react. This will not only keep you motivated through constant tinkering, but is also a winning recipe for success.
- You Never Have to See Anyone Ever Again. Finally, perhaps the most comforting thought of all is that you never actually have to see anyone ever again. Let’s say that you mess up so astronomically, you feel flushed at the face even facing your peers and colleagues. So? Quit your job, pick up and move, find a new career! Okay, while that is a bit extreme, remember, the people in your life are there by choice. Consider a simpler situation than a career move—talking to someone you see at a store who catches your eye. If self-doubt keeps you from making a move, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” In reality, he or she isn’t interested, you both go your separate ways and you never see them again. In the workplace, this might be harder but remember, if someone chooses to constantly dwell on a mistake you made, they are living in the past. Leave them there. You don’t have to respond to someone from the past. You might have to work with them, but your interaction doesn’t have to go beyond that. Put your head down, do your job and leave them where they belong—in the past.